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This aggravates me

October 18, 2007

Here is an article being referenced by this Christian site, called that argues against the American Psychological Association’s (APA) support of same sex marriage.

The whole article, written by Dr. Trayce Hansen, Love Isn’t Enough: 5 Reasons Why Same-Sex Marriage Will Harm Children claims that same sex marriage will damage children because:

  1. mother-love and father-love—though equally important—are qualitatively different and produce distinct parent-child attachments…Only heterosexual parents offer children the opportunity to develop relationships with a parent of the same, as well as the opposite sex. Relationships with both sexes early in life make it easier for a child to relate to both sexes later in life. HUH? Based on what research????
  2. children progress through predictable and necessary developmental stages. Some stages require more from a mother, while others require more from a father. Again, HUH? Cite the source Dr. Hansen – use some peer reviewed research here to support your claims. Here’s another gem from that same section: A father teaches a boy how to properly channel his aggressive and sexual drives. A mother can’t show a son how to control his impulses because she’s not a man and doesn’t have the same urges as one. A father also commands a form of respect from a boy that a mother doesn’t––a respect more likely to keep the boy in line. And those are the two primary reasons why boys without fathers are more likely to become delinquent and end up incarcerated. WHAT???
  3. Third, boys and girls need an opposite-sexed parent to help them moderate their own gender-linked inclinations.  So, having an opposite sexed grandparent or aunt/uncle would be of no use here whatsoever, right? And again, where’s the research?
  4. Fourth, same-sex marriage will increase sexual confusion and sexual experimentation by young people. The implicit and explicit message of same-sex marriage is that all choices are equally acceptable and desirable. So, even children from traditional homes—influenced by the all-sexual-options-are-equal message—will grow up thinking it doesn’t matter whom one relates to sexually or marries. Holding such a belief will lead some—if not many—impressionable young people to consider sexual and marital arrangements they never would have contemplated previously. And children from homosexual families, who are already more likely to experiment sexually, would do so to an even greater extent, because not only was non-traditional sexuality role-modeled by their parents, it was also approved by their society. SAY WHAT? Right. Gotcha Dr. Hansen. CITE THE RESEARCH THAT SUPPORTS THIS.
  5. if society permits same-sex marriage, it also will have to allow other types of marriage. The legal logic is simple: If prohibiting same-sex marriage is discriminatory, then disallowing polygamous marriage, polyamorous marriage, or any other marital grouping will also be deemed discriminatory. The emotional and psychological ramifications of these assorted arrangements on the developing psyches and sexuality of children would be disastrous. WHAT?????

This is a blatantly homophobic OPINION based on air, being presented very irresponsibly by a group with an agenda, and passing it off as “valid” because it’s an opinion supported by a PSYCHOLOGIST.

My overwhelming thought here is, SO, she’s a PSYCHOLOGIST? She hasn’t said anything other than opinion – her article is based on NOTHING.

What children need to be happy and healthy is LOVE, CONSISTENCY and STABILITY.  People (of any gender) who are in a loving, healthy, supportive, and functioning relationships are far more likely to be able to provide what kids need.

The end.

Here are the resolutions from the APA citing acutal research, with data to back up their findings:

18 Comments leave one →
  1. October 18, 2007 4:49 pm

    In my opinion, most of those concerns (assuming they’re valid at all, of course) can be addressed with non-parent adult figures in a child’s life.

    But hey, what do you expect? People like Dr. Hansen already have their minds made up. Trivialities like facts and sound research are irrelevant.

  2. October 18, 2007 5:18 pm

    Oh sure, it’s muuuuch better for children to grow up in a crappy, violent, patriarchal family than with two homosexuals…. *Tongue firmly in cheek* Lord knows they might become successful, affluent and active members of their community if they hang around the wrong set. 😉

  3. episcopalifem permalink*
    October 18, 2007 5:20 pm

    With good taste in art and music, and a FAB directory of restaurants? Or the ability to work wood, and fix plumbing???


  4. episcopalifem permalink*
    October 18, 2007 5:26 pm

    BTW Jarred, missed you! Haven’t seen you in a bit!

  5. susan s. permalink
    October 18, 2007 7:13 pm

    “People like Dr. Hansen already have their minds made up.” And I might add, their heads up their asses!

  6. October 18, 2007 8:58 pm

    This reminds me of Ronald Reagan—“Don’t confuse me with the facts!”

    Any first-year grad student could demolish that list of objections. The real scandal is that this person apparently has a doctorate and professional credentials. I’d love to know where she got her degree…Bob Jones University?

  7. October 18, 2007 10:30 pm

    Then, of course, if you have the bad fortune to lose your partner to death or (gasp!) divorce, then you write your children off as lost.

    And masturbating makes hair grow on the palms of your hands.

  8. susan s. permalink
    October 18, 2007 11:36 pm

    Oh Doxy, almost anyone can get a doctorate these days!

  9. David H. permalink
    October 19, 2007 9:37 am

    Concerns 1-4 need to have the supporting, peer reviewed research cited. #5 is pure Slippery Slope Fallacy. Therefor, the author must show independent justification to connect the inevitability of B to an occurrence of A. Otherwise the slippery slope scheme merely serves as a device of sophistry (i.e. again, show your reserach).


  10. David H. permalink
    October 19, 2007 9:42 am

    Dammit, I guess I´m not done yet. I was a grad student in Psychology and sweated thru two entire semesters of the toughest, graduate-level Research Methods & Statistical Analysis courses you can imagine. At the end of the second semester, we were alloted the entire day to complete our final exam – and it took me six, solid hours.

    To then have this opinionated asshat pass off this bigoted crap as science really, REALLY chaps my ass!.

    ::looks around for something to punch::

  11. episcopalifem permalink*
    October 19, 2007 10:40 am

    I feel the same way, David.

    It’s fine to have theories, and theories often start out as opinions. But, to throw opinions out as fact, and to have a right wing Christian group passing this article off to the sheeple as “proving” something is just plain criminal.

    It’s nothing. It’s based no solid evidence. And, she has a DOCTORAL degree?? And she wrote a dissertation. She has it on her website.

  12. episcopalifem permalink*
    October 19, 2007 10:41 am

    (Ssspt…Mimi…you’ll bring the Nair for me to use on my palms before we go into the chapel on Monday, right? I don’t want any one to know my dark and dirty shame….)

  13. October 19, 2007 11:32 am

    Nothing like trying to baffle them with bullshit. Sure worked with the folks who voted for our president. Same folks spout this crap.

    Speaking of which, did you ever get the results of your, um, test?

  14. episcopalifem permalink*
    October 19, 2007 11:33 am

    No..I’ve called and so far, nada.


  15. October 19, 2007 3:13 pm

    Thanks, Eileen. I’ve actually been around. But work’s kept me pretty busy for the last couple of weeks, so I haven’t found the time or energy to put a coherent comment together. 😉

  16. episcopalifem permalink*
    October 19, 2007 3:18 pm

    (((Just glad yer around!)))

  17. October 20, 2007 7:41 pm

    “Research”? There is no stinkin’ research. It’s based on fear and bigotry. When I read this stuff, I start to get a migraine. I’d like to ask these people if they have any statistics on child abuse in same-sex parent homes. I watch our local news (don’t ask why – I guess I’m a masochist). All I ever see is straight people abusing and killing their kids.

    The happily partnered men who live next door have adopted three boys who are just about the sweetest, most well-adjusted kids you could ever meet. They’ve brought me cards and flowers when I’ve been sick, and honestly, they’re the happiest family we know.

    Augh – I feel the rage coming on… sorry…

  18. episcopalifem permalink*
    October 20, 2007 10:17 pm

    I know.

    Abuse is possible in any human home. I would hypothesize that lack of mental health and adaptability have far more to do the occurence of child abuse (physical and/or sexual) than sexual orientation.

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